In helping patients assume a process orientation, the therapist must:

1. Be a mature leader who resists the temptation to make brilliant interventions
2. Help the clients accept process-illuminating comments such as "I am not sure what's happening with Bill."
3. Realize clients are always more receptive to observations delivered supportively.
4. Not make global accusations. Instead of saying someone is dependent, make a statement that indicates an observation of times of closeness and other times of aloofness.

Process comments:

1. "Your behavior is like..."
2. "Your behavior makes others feel..."
3. "Your beliefs influence the opinions others have of you by..."
4. "Your actions affect self-esteem by..."